Tov’s separation anxiety

Especially after my husband's passing, Tov got a very bad separation anxiety. If I went to the bathroom and closed the door for 7 seconds, he threw himself on the door in order to reunite with me. When I was going to go out by myself in order to buy food for example, Tov would hold me with his paws, trying to pull me back into our home again. That how worried he was. That also showed me that he thought that he was the leader with all the responsibility for my safety.

Tony showed me a technique that helped Tov overcome his separation anxiety. I practiced this often, and soon I could go shopping without any problems.

During the time when I was practising this, I noticed that Tov reacted if I was closer to home than 50 metres. It was like he knew that I was there without him being able to actually see me. Tony said that Jan, his mother, had been part of research into dogs that know when their owners are going to come home, before they arrive. There are incredible stories about how much dogs can perceive, something that I do not think mainstream science have a good explanation to yet, at least not as far as I know.

The reason this was a problem for me and Tov was that I had given Tov the job as a pack leader, without me knowing or understanding how it happened. When I had practiced Dog Listening and implemented all four areas, Tov became much calmer all together. I have written about all four areas in my book that I can send you against a donation. Please also let me know what the donation is for so I know to send you the book to your email address too. If you go to my first page, you find links there also.

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My journey through Dog Listening

I had stopped going to the obedience club, which made Tov a bit calmer. I stopped going for long walks, as he was very worried on all walks.

I understand why he was so worried. He had seen my husband disappear from the pack. As he did not see him die, I could not tell him what happened. I had without knowing it given Tov the job of being the pack leader. With Dog Listening I was changing this bit by bit. I had started to behave in a way that would make him by his own free will elect me his pack leader.

The reason he was so worried was that in his mind he had the responsibility for my well fare. He had already lost one pack member (my husband) and he saw him braking down very quickly by his illness and there was nothing he could do. Now I was taking this responsibility away from him, bit by bit, area by area. He started to become more and more calm. I still see a progress in his behaviour, he becomes more and more calm. The reason for this is that I am behaving in a way that makes him be able to trust me with his life. I show him that I am the most intelligent, the most experienced, the fittest, the strongest member of this pack. I show him this by just following the rules of Dog Listening keeping very calm. I do not use violence or force or even raise my voice to him, but I calmly just show him that he can trust me with his life.

The reason this works is that we have our language, but dogs have a different language. The more I learn about their language, the better our communication becomes and the more we understand each other. It is easier for me to learn his language than for him to learn my language as I am more intelligent and experienced than he is.

This language is what I want to help others learning. I have explained about how I can help you on my first page.

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